I talk a lot with my kids about "who do you want to be when you grow up" and by that I mean, what kind of person? What kind of things do you want in your life?
We are failing if we are just living our lives without being intention in the decisions we make. Sitting on the sofa watching tv all week is a decision; albeit a passive one. The problem is often that it doesn't feel like a decision. It feels like I'm just relaxing. That particular relaxation is seductive. Who knew my TV was such a vixen of negative productivity and an ever increasing back side. (remember that Kaiser Permanente commercial that talked about this? http://xnet.kp.org/newscenter/aboutkp/ourads.html) Actually most of their ads are really good!