I have 2 kids.
Son, 19
Daughter, 17
Both my kids have grown up in a Christian, fairly conservative home.
Things that have been important to me as a parent:
kindness
compassion
ability to think for yourself
I don't allow parroting of opinions. You need to be able to back up what you say with facts and reason. this is not always a fun environment for a kid, I admit; but I find it so terribly important to raise adults who can think for themselves.
Example:
My son had a bunch of friends over prior to our last Presidential election. One of his friends made a comment about how he was voting for Bernie Sanders. So.. I asked why.
Friend: I think he'll make a really good President.
Me: Why do you think he'll be a good President?
Friend: Because he's the only one who really cares.
Me: I don't know much about Bernie. What does he do that makes you think he cares? (honestly, this was totally conversational, not interrogating)
Friend: I don't know. I just think he does.
Me: I'd love to hear more.
Friend: [stares blankly. leaves room]
Me: [commenting to my son] He didn't grow up in this house, did he?
Son: nope.
Before that friend left, I challenged him to do a little reading on why Bernie was so great and that I'd love to hear about why he likes Bernie next time he comes over.
A girl can try.
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